Boundaries Aren’t Requests: How to Set Them and Actually Stick to Them

Boundaries are one of the most common,and most challenging, topics that come up in therapy. In this episode of The Clinical Moment, Casey Baker and Amy Davis sit down with LSI therapist Emily to explore what boundaries really are, why they matter, and why they can feel so difficult to set.

Emily shares her clinical perspective on boundaries through a cognitive behavioral lens, while also discussing practical strategies clients can use in everyday life. From understanding the difference between requests and boundaries to navigating discomfort, pushback, and feelings of guilt, this conversation offers meaningful and approachable tools for personal growth.

You’ll also hear Emily introduce the Stoplight Method ,a simple yet powerful framework to help identify when boundaries may be needed and how to implement them effectively.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why boundaries are not requests

• Why setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable or selfish

• How to respond when others push back

• The Stoplight Method for identifying boundary needs

• Using CBT strategies to challenge irrational thoughts

• How boundaries improve relationships and reduce anxiety

Whether you're navigating relationships, work dynamics, or personal growth, this episode offers practical guidance and encouragement for building healthier boundaries.